“Helping others with significant concerns in their lives can be highly effective, satisfying, and meaningful. It can be great work. To do this well […] we must continually invest positively in others, and this means constant renewal of the self and an ongoing focus on the intricate balance between caring for others versus caring for …
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I’m sure you’ve already heard many times that you should “put on your own oxygen mask first” or that “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” I don’t think any of us disagree, but there are times when that advice isn’t enough. What if you feel like the well’s run dry, or like there’s no …
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Invalidation basically means expressing a lack of empathy toward someone’s feelings and experience of the world. Validation, then, conveys the message: I see you, I hear you, and I understand where you’re coming from and what you’re going through. Validation or invalidation aren’t always articulated verbally, but could be shown through a supportive or skeptical …
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Do you tend to make a mountain out of a molehill? Or do you tend to have one of these reactions? 1: You must not make a mountain out of a molehill. That’s the rule. 2: Let me help you see that the mountain is really a molehill. While we’re at it, what else do …
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When one of my friends asked his therapist if she’d ever experienced the challenge he was facing, she said: “You want me to self-reveal?!” My friend told me: “It felt really creepy. I just wanted to know if she understood what I was going through, and she acted like I wanted her to take all …
What Can I Do If a Youth Asks Me for Personal Information? Read More »
For anyone who works in education or the helping professions, I’d like to share with you three books that I’ve found particularly helpful in dealing with stress, burnout, and vicarious trauma, and in moving toward a life that’s both more satisfying and more effective in serving others. The Compassion Fatigue Workbook: Creative Tools for Transforming …
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In his book on Clergy Burnout, Rev. Fred Lehr sums up the unspoken mantra of the helping professions: “Be the selfless martyr. Bear everyone else’s pains. Make everything right.” Of course you could always do more. But can you? Self-care isn’t about being selfish or self-indulgent. Nor is it just one more item to add …
How Can I Focus on Self-Care When There’s Endless Need? Read More »
“My ability to care for people has suffered. […] Many of us feel like we’re becoming worse at our jobs.” nurse dealing with hospital staffing shortages during COVID-19 (source: NPR.org) I doubt there’s a single person working in the helping professions who hasn’t heard that it’s important to practice self-care. Yes, self-care is important. But …
“Dr. Tudbelly eyed the distraught Lionel. ‘What are your symptoms? Do you feel baffled? Bewildered? Confused? A little edgy? Frightened? Puzzled?’ ‘Yes, yes!’ cried Lionel. ‘All of that!’ ‘Good,’ said Dr. Tudbelly. ‘You’re quite normal.’ ‘But what shall I do?’ ‘Why, the same as any sensible person in the circumstances. Keep going. Hope for the …
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This year, in addition to the usual back-to-school jitters, teens are getting hit from all sides during the pandemic: They may be hearing alarming misinformation about COVID, or have legitimate concerns about a highly contagious illness; They may be pawns in the competing agendas of parents, teachers, school administrators and government leaders about mask-wearing, vaccinations, …
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