They lost one of the Lost Boys on a trip to the zoo. The ‘Lost Boys’ were kids who fled southern Sudan, starting in 1987 with an original group of around 20,000 children (many as young as six years old) who “walked more than a thousand miles, half of them dying before reaching Kakuma refugee …
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“Wisdom is knowing when to employ the gentle compassion of understanding and when to employ the fierce compassion of good boundaries.” Thich Nhat Hanh, Zen and the Art of Saving the Planet If you work with youth in any capacity, there will inevitably be times when you’ll need to draw a line. This could be …
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Marshall Rosenberg encountered an unexpected reaction when he led a class on nonviolent communication at an inner city high school. The students had been having an animated conversation, but they stopped as soon as he entered the room, and the more he talked, the less interested they seemed to be in what he had to …
The narrator of the story “Standard Loneliness Package” works at a call center in Bangalore, experiencing other people’s pain for twelve dollars an hour. (Official company motto: “Don’t feel like having a bad day? Let us have it for you.”) “Pain is an illusion, I know, and so is time, I know, I know, I …
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“Helping others with significant concerns in their lives can be highly effective, satisfying, and meaningful. It can be great work. To do this well […] we must continually invest positively in others, and this means constant renewal of the self and an ongoing focus on the intricate balance between caring for others versus caring for …
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I’m sure you’ve already heard many times that you should “put on your own oxygen mask first” or that “you can’t pour from an empty cup.” I don’t think any of us disagree, but there are times when that advice isn’t enough. What if you feel like the well’s run dry, or like there’s no …
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Invalidation basically means expressing a lack of empathy toward someone’s feelings and experience of the world. Validation, then, conveys the message: I see you, I hear you, and I understand where you’re coming from and what you’re going through. Validation or invalidation aren’t always articulated verbally, but could be shown through a supportive or skeptical …
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Do you tend to make a mountain out of a molehill? Or do you tend to have one of these reactions? 1: You must not make a mountain out of a molehill. That’s the rule. 2: Let me help you see that the mountain is really a molehill. While we’re at it, what else do …
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When one of my friends asked his therapist if she’d ever experienced the challenge he was facing, she said: “You want me to self-reveal?!” My friend told me: “It felt really creepy. I just wanted to know if she understood what I was going through, and she acted like I wanted her to take all …
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For anyone who works in education or the helping professions, I’d like to share with you three books that I’ve found particularly helpful in dealing with stress, burnout, and vicarious trauma, and in moving toward a life that’s both more satisfying and more effective in serving others. The Compassion Fatigue Workbook: Creative Tools for Transforming …
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